tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362903411474112827.post8187174966918607789..comments2023-08-23T04:40:19.051-07:00Comments on Cheryl de los Reyes Cruz: Art and my inner compassCherylhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01679485132057382813noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362903411474112827.post-38751927372751529712009-04-07T17:11:00.000-07:002009-04-07T17:11:00.000-07:00SparkleMirror - That's a really wonderful way of l...SparkleMirror - That's a really wonderful way of looking at things. I'd thought that since I'd reached a state of total acceptance with my father I'd be better able to do so with everyone I found difficult. I was evidently wrong and this is my next painful lesson. I think I have to get over the fear of being hurt again because in this fear lies an accompanying sense of victimhood and self righteousness, the same things I see so strongly in her. Oh, lessons, lessons...Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01679485132057382813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362903411474112827.post-61071869461730597822009-04-07T16:47:00.000-07:002009-04-07T16:47:00.000-07:00I think your lesson is spot-on worthy. For me, unc...I think your lesson is spot-on worthy. For me, unconditional love means that I see in others where I may once have been, or where I may one day be; in short, compassion for where a person is in their personal journey. Looking back on my life, I see several versions of me, some of whom would challenge my peace today. So, accepting and loving others just the way they are really means loving myself.Blind Fly Theaterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09011262001970131894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362903411474112827.post-67712597426047405722009-04-07T14:15:00.000-07:002009-04-07T14:15:00.000-07:00Rachel- Yeah, I can too sometimes, especially with...Rachel- Yeah, I can too sometimes, especially with members of my family, a replaying of old habitual roles. But I'm trying to be more mindful of things like that. Lashing out at people, it seems, never makes the situation better. <BR/><BR/>Disturbed Stranger - Yes, art is my therapist.<BR/><BR/>Lisa - Thank you!<BR/><BR/>SparkleMirror - Yes, she's definitely a teaching tool. The other women, yes their reaction to her depends on their degree of sensitivity. But I can't say I feel any anxiety on their behalf because of her. I know they can take care of themselves. It's just uncomfortable in general around her. At any moment one of those nasty remarks might come flying at you. <BR/><BR/>But, one of the most sensitive (who can only take an hour or so of her) is always ready to counter any negative remark this woman says. Another who by and large is never bothered by anything, just lets whatever she says go in one ear and out the other. It's her example I've been trying to follow. And when I'm feeling well grounded, content and positive, I'm able to manage it and treat her with the respect every being deserves. But when I'm feeling low it's much more difficult. Maybe I should follow the example of my more sensitive friend. Maybe speaking out more is what I need to do.Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01679485132057382813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362903411474112827.post-38888484250177301022009-04-07T09:46:00.000-07:002009-04-07T09:46:00.000-07:00I think spending brief stints of time with this "f...I think spending brief stints of time with this "friend" may be beneficial as a teaching tool. She seems to come highly concentrated, and limited periods of exposure may be best for developing an "immunity." Also, does a substantial part of your anxiety come from seeing her effect on others? If so, trusting in their abilities to learn and deal may go a long way in soothing you.Blind Fly Theaterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09011262001970131894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362903411474112827.post-30149599189684368112009-04-07T06:37:00.000-07:002009-04-07T06:37:00.000-07:00i love your images- my jury is out on unconditiona...i love your images- my jury is out on unconditional love though...wonderful post xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15047696858755347818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362903411474112827.post-55105539754613991542009-04-06T08:02:00.000-07:002009-04-06T08:02:00.000-07:00Art is so soothing...Thanks for sharing.I enjoyed ...Art is so soothing...<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing.<BR/>I enjoyed that.Disturbed Strangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18310910591108392774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362903411474112827.post-8683374385594618022009-04-06T05:09:00.000-07:002009-04-06T05:09:00.000-07:00I get b----y when I'm tired, sometimes, but I try ...I get b----y when I'm tired, sometimes, but I try not to. Good work patching it up, even if you don't like her! That should be a lesson for everyone :)Rachel Cotterillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08969719330048416996noreply@blogger.com